Am i a complete *****?

alright, my stepmoter is a complete ***** to me. there is nothing she will not do to make me miserable. and i understand that plenty of young kids may think this, but i am not even overreacting. my dad is the sole provider for my family (five people) and he doesn%26#039;t even make that much, but she still goes out and spends a crapload of money on clothes and shoes and food that she labels as hers even though there is barely enough for even us to eat!


not only that, but she will always twist a situation into her favor, no matter what it is.


alright..... here%26#039;s is the hardest part of it all..... she has cancer now. i feel horrible and all and i cried when i found out, but recently, it seems as though she is even using THAT to get her way. she thinks that having cancer justifies the cruel way she treats her family


am i a complete heartless ***** for feeling this way about her even though she is my step-mother and has cancer and all

Am i a complete *****?
I think your feelings about the money situation is justified, but it must be frustrating for you now, as you can%26#039;t mention it to your dad for fear of looking heartless. You didn%26#039;t mention whether her cancer is terminal or not, but if she does recover, I%26#039;d mention it to your dad. He may well not know about her spending, but either way it%26#039;s not fair for you and the rest of your family to have your life made miserable by your horrible stepmother. People like her make me sick, she needs to get off her **** and make her own money if she wants to have a tonne of new clothes and shoes. I understand it%26#039;s gonna be difficult to say anything at the moment, but I definitely think you should try and bring it up. Perhaps gather the rest of the family and sit down with your dad and tell him how you feel. Good luck :)
Reply:Poor Dad, he has a bunch of kids and can%26#039;t find a good woman.


You just see the manipulation from the outside, dad is just glad to have someone around. I%26#039;m sure it%26#039;s not easy to find someone when you have a bunch of kids and don%26#039;t make that much money.
Reply:Thats is a really messed up situation the way that she treats you..but that doesn%26#039;t give her the right even if she is ill to treat you in that manner...Cancer or no cancer she still is alive and well so she should never throw that in her favor..have u talked to your father?
Reply:no you%26#039;re not wrong because she was a b**** before the cancer
Reply:just tell her your srry for the good news (i mean bad) and live with it youll be out the house b4 u know it and shell just die sooner
Reply:How old are you, hon? If you are young enough to live at home, I feel for you. My sons were 15 and 19 when I was diagnosed, and they LIKED me [ I think ].


Do what you can to make life easier for your family. Be responsible for your schoolwork, make sure you kids take turns making dinner and cleaning up, each wash your own clothes, clean your own room, make sure garbage goes out, etc.


Get your Dad in on this, and meet with your siblings - decide what needs to be done each day, and each take a share.


Make Dad enforce it.


I hate to tell you, but it%26#039;s gonna get worse. Cancer is no fun at best. I don%26#039;t know what treatment she is getting [ surgery - chemo - radiation ] but some of the effects are nasty.


Buy or check out a book about coping with cancer. Tell you guidance counselor, and make sure your siblings%26#039; counselors know too. Tell your pastor what is going on.


Pray a lot; for her, your family, and yourself!


Be as patient and as fair as you can.


Find something to laugh at every day.


Talk to a trusted grownup outside your immediate family, and vent a little to your friends.


If you get really mad,do something physical - scrub the floor, mow the lawn, go for a run.


***I believe this is a great way to store up %26#039;brownie points%26#039; in heaven!
Reply:absolutely NOT! she treated you like CRAP before cancer and is still treating you like crap (if not worse)!! I would try talking to your dad about this sympathize with him regarding her cancer but make sure he understands that you and your other 4 siblings need food/etc!! I think that takes priority over shoes/clothes for her!! make yourself heard! get your siblings together and work something out! Im sure you guys can do it!! and dont let her scare you! stand up for yourself!! good luck



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