Single since birth...am I too passive?

Well...here goes...I am only 19...I'm not that cool, kinda geeky to be exact...I'm an old fashioned kinda guy...thinking when I meet someone, she would be forever...I never intentionally date any girl, I always think when I get close to someone, I put myself in their shoes, and think of me as "he wants something..." and it's always hard for me to get close to a beautiful girl...always labeling them "scary"...





What's making me worry is, almost everybody around me always seems to get a girl...even a few guys are a bit weirder than I am...even though they broke up after a few months...I just think...that, I have very little experience on that kind of stuff, and maybe I am going to miss out on "One of the joy of life in your youth"...(which is the whole first love, arguing bickering crying making up kissing...well, the whole she-bang...)





But of course...maybe I just limit myself too much...so...any opinion for me out there? Should I stand still and wait, or should I be aggresive?

Single since birth...am I too passive?
Well, thinking back on my life, I've always fallen for men with a sense of humor. Even if they were jerks, if they were funny (like witty, smart, cynical funny, with an excellent vocabulary), they won me over for far longer than most of them should have. So that's one thing.





And the other is timing. When you meet the right person, I think you'll know it. Until then, you may have relationships, but they'll all be lacking in some fundamental way that breaks them up (some will be literally friendships that you might want to become romantic, but they never do--again, timing is critical). So that aspect is really pretty much out of your control.





You don't need a role model so much as you need a strong sense of yourself. That comes with time, and effort--try to live as the person you want to be. Try to enjoy yourself. Something will happen and you will find someone you love. And when you do, she'll be very lucky to have met someone as thoughtful as yourself.
Reply:Jesus christ! with that kind of writing I would just wait until I was in college! The problem is within you, you are doubting yourself part of the whole youth exp(kissing fighting, breaking-up etc.) is that you put yourself out there and not putting yourself in the other's shoes. That is impossible because you honestly never know what they are thinking, so scratch that. Just find a girl you like and go for it, if you fail, remember this is part of the whole "shebang" and you will thank yourself for it later on when you want to date around alot more. your fear of rejection is stopping you, when you should stop it by letting yourself be a guy and "letting them hang" or "Toughing up your sack" and facing your fears. That is as nice as I could put it. If you want a real man answer, post another question and let me know, I'll guide you through the no-nonsense way.
Reply:Relationships don't last forever as you've seen with your friends.. but your young and you should try to date so that you know who or what you want in a girl.. You probably like a girl who is nice.. smiles a lot.. and is there for you.. Maybe you like a quiet girl instead of a talkative girl Lol Maybe you want someone who is interested in the same things as you. but it will be very very hard to find someone you want unless you don't try.. but don't try to hard cause there is someone out there for everyone.. Just beware of heart breaks.. :) Good luck!
Reply:stay cool .. !! you only 19 yrs old. why u so worried. u got much time . just do what u thinking it's good or the best of u in your own life and also in the future.. BUT about girl : just take away for the last item.. dont think what ever people said because they dont know about u at all... just be yourself ok.



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